Dear Donna: Five Wedding Thank You Card Writing Tips
I finally am married! After all the planning, the day has come and gone, the honeymoon is over and now we are back and settling into "normal married life". I heard that I have up to a year to write my thank you cards. Is this true?
Blissful in Boston
Congratulations! Being on the "other side" of planning and the honeymoon sometimes feels like a let down and a lot of my past brides/clients sometimes don't know what to do with all their newly found free time. Here is my best piece of advice regarding this: WRITE YOUR THANK YOU NOTES!
Contrary to the popular belief that you have up to one year to write a thank you note, I am going to tell you that is not true.
A good bride and groom should get their thank you notes out within 2-3 months of the wedding. And within two weeks of his/her shower!
What?? (I can hear some of you now, "I don't have 12 months?", "I"m too busy", etc.)
Truly, there is no excuse. I've heard of couples that NEVER have sent their cards. Or waited the year, etc. I am going to say that better late than never but it doesn't take that long to write a nice little note to acknowledge the guest(s) that came to your wedding and gave you a present.
Here are five tips to help you with writing your thank you cards:
- Consider having your callligrapher or stationer address your thank you card envelopes so that task is already completed for you. This is a great time saver and can be done before the wedding. (You can even pre-stamp them!)
- Do not use the computer/printer for your thank you card. Do not Facebook a thank you. Don't tweet it. Don't instagram it. Write it. With your own handwriting. On a nice card. With a pen!
- If you received money, don't acknowledge that directly. Your guests will love to hear how you used the money (i.e. downpayment on a house) but stating the actual amount in the thank you note isn't necessary. Acknowledge your guests first and be gracious that they came to see you get married! Some people travel a great distance and noting that is a kind gesture.
- Do not use pre-printed thank you cards! You know the kind. The ones that they have for 6 year olds to fill in the blanks after their birthday party? Try and write a sincere and non-generic note. There are plenty of great cards out there!
- Take the time to spell their names right. This might sound like a no-brainer but nothing makes you feel worse than spelling their name wrong on the thank you card. #fail
I don't know about you, but I still enjoy getting a lovely card in the mail that isn't a bill. A thank you card is no exception to this.
If the invitation sets the tone for your event, your thank you note and the timing of it speak to the tone of your graciousness for your friends and family.
So what are you waiting for? Write those thank you cards right now. Your conscience will thank me later. (and so will your mother).